Monday

I gotta catch my breath! This day has been massively busy and if I don’t start this posting started now I may no get anything done now. A crazy day though—the craziest part of the day was meeting for an hour and half with a lady who may need as much professional help as her grand son. Actually her grandson is doing OK—I think he is being used as tool for the daughter and the grandmother to wage “war” on one another. The grand son is being kept in group home and the grandmom is sure the whole operation is being run by organized crime.

The lady in my office is nice but local culture which colors everything does. Her daughter has sever depression, medically documented which may or may not have resulted from living with her mother. The mom has set limits on Grannie, which Grannie resents, and part of those limits is when and how Grannie can visit with the grandson in the group home.

These grannies and granddads really need to ban together, to unionize or something so they can enjoy their grandchildren. It seems like such slap in their face to in many cases raise the grandchild for a good portion of the kids life only to yank the kid or suspend the grandparents visitation when the grandparents get to uppidity with the grand child’s parent. These grandfolks really take this separation seriously and they should. I think it’s time legislation be considered to give grandparents more rights. It’ weird to me to have so many grandparents actually doing the hands on raising of children. The phenomenon could be a sign of the times. Many of these grandparents, if not all, are going to be babyboomers because that who are the becoming seniors and we boomers have always got our way; one way or the other.. If enough of us seniors start being denied grandchild visitation things will change.

I fear sadly, however, that the boomer generation may not be that concerned to organize for the sake of the grandchildren. I know Dianne would but I would only under much duress. I am not ready to raise another set of kids after finally getting my guys out on their own. I saw my parents do this and I never heard them once complain—at which I have always been amazed What I am wondering is if a person might need a psych evaluation to voluntarily consider such intervention. The longer I spoke with the kindly grandmother in my office this morning I ended up wondering why the daughter was so majorly depressed in the first place.

It was way passed lunch when I finally got the this women out of my office. I was tired and hungry and working hard not to be angry with his lady who just wanted to help her grand son. But I gave her the best referral I could think of. She had thanked me for spending the time with her and giving her some ideas which may help her with her quest. Sometimes that’s the best you can do.