On being social

 My son Mark Anthony is in Hawaii this week! It's hard for me to believe that he's traveling as much as he is these days. That means of course there was just Jasmine and Jackson and me for breakfast and that's cool I really love these kids and I think they really go out of the way to make sure that somebody's there for me. I totally appreciate them having breakfast with me on Sunday mornings when they could be sleeping in and doing other things young people do on Sunday mornings. I think without this the kids being consistent with my Sunday morning ritual of breakfast out I would have very little socialization at all and I could be there for in trouble. There was a short article on NPR this morning about folks living and loneliness and how it's more prevalent than ever before as well as other issues of isolationism. I don't think I'm an isolationist for say and I don't think I necessarily lonely but I probably could do with more people to visit with. I wonder if other people use family for this need. I know it's difficult for me to get together if anybody else just because of transportation for one reason. I don't know enough individuals personally, anymore, to get together with them. Even folks here at the apartment complex I should or could be hanging out with more but I don't couple times I've tried but that's never turned into anything long-term. I like to meet people early on and today most of these people don't get up till later in the mornings then go back to sleep for a nap or something. It seems the most times I see them is on that coffee group we have on Thursday mornings- thanks for that because I didn't have that I would have one less group to have coffee with or socialize with and that's becoming less and less as people begin to boycott the coffee social for one reason or another. Fortunately I also have my assist meetings on Tuesday Mornings usually that's got to count to something so I guess I do have a number of options that I'm keeping open as far as my socialization and time with other people go. I don't know if I can increase this or evAgain, it's Saturday night, the end of another week! How quickly this life is going for me or is it just a function of me in my age. Hopefully it's a little bit of both but boy the days are going quickly. I was wondering about that earlier this week and maybe it's because I've been trying to do something everyday or have something planned every day. When I have something planned I'm truly working, not necessarily working hard but working just the same in the day seems to flow quicker to the end so that means the week must flow quicker as well. Today was busy for me. I didn't do a lot as far as work goes or productive stuff goes but I did get over to the coffee group this morning at the coffee shop next door as I try to do every Saturday morning and today was a little bit different. Whereas a lot of folks say hi to me as I come in or if there are I'm already there they wave to me as they come in and sit down at their tables. Today the actually had conversations with me longer than hi hello and how do you do? That made me feel good almost made me feel like my time has been worthwhile sitting at the table by myself week after week almost during someone to come up and say hi and talk to me. Interestingly these people have told me this morning that they see me every week and they say hi sometimes but I got the feeling they wanted to know more. I don't know if they'll invite me into their group or not that would be sort of interesting but it was the most conversation that I've had probably since I started going to the coffee groups coffee shop except for the ones or twice that somebody came with me that I knew already and we sat down and talked for quite a while. Once I'd finished coffee I went back to the apartment and fetched my cell phone because I had forgotten to take the cell phone with me. I wanted to make sure I knew what time the movies would start that I was interested in seeing today. So I looked up the times and I was close enough that I could leave for maybe the first movie which was to start at 10:30. It's frustrated because as I got across the street to catch the bus I had to wait for the light and then I saw the bus coming and I couldn't believe how far away it was to start with and how quickly it came and passed me and then the light turned and I could cross the street. Well I didn't want to wait for the next bus so I put my chair and gear and drove my chair all the way up to the movie house didn't seem that far but it jaggles your body up quite a bit. I went to two movies today the first one was supposedly based on a true story of a black girl who bought an oil well I was given attractive ground back in the old days 160 Acres. It was house she found oil on the land and survived the vicious of men trying to take it from her primarily because she was a girl and primarily because she was black. It was the better of the two movies I went to the second one was kind of stupid I don't quite remember what it was about now I was glad put it was over it was called Bug something a really strange movie. I came home and was glad to get into my apartment where it was warm. It wasn't really cold outside though it was chilly and I had a hood with me to wrap around me to keep me warm but it was nice to get inside it's now fall officially getting close to Winter. The Sun shined brightly but it was cold…

en if I want to. It's like anything else if you're trying to grow something you got to nurture it and nurturing means you've got to commit time as well as interest to that relationship both of which could be somewhat challenging for me. And Sunday night I have a lot of these kind of thoughts because Monday is a new week and I can start a whole new challenge of trying to find somebody to be friendly with to increase my relationships and networks.

Kind of felt bad this morning because following breakfast the kids had expressed some interest in coming over and changing doors are the door decorations that I have now. We had talked about doing this last week I know that but this morning I really wanted to get out and watch a movie that I wanted to watch yesterday but the timing was off and I was going to head out directly after breakfast for a 10:00 showing. So now the kids are going to come over another time hopefully this week and work on the door. I don't know if it's too early to do a Christmas door and it seems like if we do a Thanksgiving door it won't be for very long don't have to do another door for Christmas. It just gets so complicated..